To Spank, or Be Spanked
Lately, I’m known more as a spanker than spankee, so people who know me from my earlier work as a spankee in Shadow Lane productions are confused as to my orientation. I’m bringing this up because I believe there are many women who begin as bottoms and end up as tops. The deal about me, though, is that I’m a true switch, which means I truly like to spank as well as be spanked.
Do I pine to be spanked while I’m spanking? No. Do I wish I was doing the spanking while being spanked? No. So, how do I determine when and where I’ll do what? It all depends on the other person involved, of course.
If I’m with my husband, Lawrence Selden, I’d prefer to be spanked. Why? Because I know that he’s a true top. His only interest in spanking is spanking women, or seeing women spanked. I would never, ever try to take the upper hand with him, because he shows absolutely no tendency toward a desire to bottom. That said, when I encounter a man who does, I would naturally want to spank him. I have absolutely no problem spanking men and making sure they get everything they deserve!
Once, at a spanking party, a gentleman asked if he could spank me. I thought him attractive and he certainly looked competent, so I said he could. Only a couple of moments over his knee and I knew that his heart wasn’t in it. I mean, here he was spanking THE Chelsea Pfeiffer and he wasn’t getting into it. I stopped the scene and asked him if he’d rather I spanked him and, of course, that is exactly what was going through his head. We switched places and the scene took off.
Whether they are male, or female, I always judge how I’m going to handle a spanking session by the personality of the other man, or woman, involved. That said, do I ever have a model show up for a shoot and suddenly decide that she should spank me instead? No, though I have sometimes, half way through a shoot, decided that the woman I was working with would/could be up to spanking me. If she’s intelligent, clever, witty and displays a good deal of self-confidence and bodily confidence I suddenly find myself wondering what it would be like to have her spank me. That’s when plans change, scripts are tossed and the fun improvised switching begins! Woohoo!
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